Through a friend’s Facebook share, I came across this very cute article entitled “10 Old Fashioned Dating Habits We Should Make Cool Again.” The article touched on some practical thoughts about chivalry, clarity and being in the moment when dating. I thought it was extremely clever and touched on some things that in 2013, are definitely worth mentioning.
As I read through it, what struck me even more than the article itself were the comments. 2500+ comments to date with people discussing “the friend zone”; debating whether bringing flowers to the first date makes a girl excited or makes her feel creeped out; women outlining how they are super independent and thus chivalrous gestures are outdated; and men discussing why being chivalrous in the beginning of a relationship is a bad idea because women don’t like it and are responsible for changing these things in the first place. Are you kidding me? I was floored and saddened.
If this is what things have already come to, what in the world will things be like when my daughter and son start dating? At any rate, let me know what you think.
1. Coming to the door to pick someone up.
I think we’ve all had it with the incredibly unromantic “here” text, and meeting up always seems to be more casual and platonic than the alternative. Of course, meeting someone from online or any circumstance like that would probably be the exception to this rule, but generally: the 30 seconds it takes to get out of a car or cab and knock on the door makes a huge difference.
2. Trying to dress really nicely for a date.
“Nicely” means different things for different people, so I think it’s just a matter of putting effort into how you put yourself together to go out with someone. It’s not about wearing suits and petticoats again, but just realizing that, whether or not we like to accept it, appearance does count for something, and we should do our best to make sure that…
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